This new book by Massimo Recalcati focuses on the psycho-social life of the son. Comparing and contrasting the tragic story of Oedipus by Sophocles and the parable of the prodigal son, Recalcati argues that all common parenting strategies, whether authoritarian or democratic, are attempts at sealing the fate of sons – that is, they are designed to ensure that sons realize the dreams and fantasies of the parents. But all that sons want – and this is their secret because they generally do not want, or are unable, to confront their parents directly – is to be recognized as unique, as different, as independent, free-thinking individuals who are able to chart their own path in life, rather than extensions of their parents' fantasies. The parents' task is to acknowledge this, and to create the space for this desire to flourish. Continuing his remarkable reflections on parents, children and family life, this new book by one of Italy's leading and bestselling public intellectuals will be of interest to a wide general readership.

Un'esistenza sul confine tra la vita e la morte, tra battesimo ed estrema unzione. La nuda fede di una madre verso il battito del cuore del figlio. Un vecchio soldato, sopravvissuto alla guerra, insegna la forza del passo nella neve. Sullo sfondo i ricordi di una vita e la presenza incombente della fine. Una preghiera nel nome della vita che non vuole morire. Amen è il primo testo teatrale di Massimo Recalcati.

Modern social and political life is characterized not only by a passion for freedom and a desire for human contact, but also by the urge to shut down, to refuse freedom and the responsibility that goes with it, to barter it away in return for our security: this is the temptation of the wall, a temptation with which every modern society has to come to terms. Drawing on his experience as a psychoanalyst, Recalcati shows that the temptation of the wall is rooted in a deep psychological inclination: human beings have always drawn up borders and rejected the risks associated with being open to the outside world. But when these borders are turned into walls, they can only result in an impoverishment of the value of exchange and the loss of the dynamic plurality of a life shared with others.

The highly regarded Italian philosopher and psychoanalyst offers “a brilliant, stirring analysis” on suffering, doubt, and the potential for renewal (La Stampa, IT). For Massimo Recalcati, Jesus’s reckoning in the Garden of Gethsemane is at once an instance of human weakness and an encounter with the Divine. It is the story where the Divine and the Human meet most forcefully, first in company, then in solitude, and where agony and doubt mingle with potential rebirth and revitalization. As the Gospels recount, after the Last Supper, Jesus retreated to a small field just outside the city of Jerusalem: Gethsemane, the olive grove. His prayers are interrupted when Judas arrives with a group of armed men, and kisses him, betraying and abandoning him with a kiss. Jesus is forsaken by his friends and, it seems to him in this moment, by his father, his God. His sin, in Recalcati’s view, is like Prometheus to have drawn Divine closer to man. “Lively and sharp . . . an invitation to look positively at the loneliness of human experience.” —Lettera, IT

Fatherhood today is in crisis. Fathers have gone missing, or have become their children’s playmates, and the symbolic authority of the father has lost its power. What remains of the father today in the wake of this decline, and what should the relation between children and parents now be? In addressing these questions, Massimo Recalcati draws inspiration from the story of Telemachus in Homer’s Odyssey. The Telemachus complex is the reverse of the Oedipus complex. Recalcati argues that children are possessed not just with a desire to annihilate their father, as their key rival in the contest to win the mother’s love, but also with a longing for a father-figure, as someone who brings meaning, structure and order to their lives and who imbues them with a sense of the future. This fresh and insightful account of the changing relations between parents and children in the era of the decline of the father will be of great interest to a wide general readership.

Relationships fall apart, marriages fail, couples break up – it happens to us all. Time corrodes passion and the routines of daily life kill the excitement that surrounds the emotion of the first encounter. The difficulty of uniting sexual pleasure with love, which Freud considered to be the most common neurosis in any love life, has become emblematic of a truth that seems undeniable: desire is destined to die if its object is not constantly renewed, if we do not change partner, if it is closed for too long in the restrictive chamber of the same bond. And yet what happens to these bonds when one of the two partners betrays the other, when the promise fails, when there is another emotional experience cloaked in secrecy and deceit? What happens if the traitor then begs forgiveness? Are they asking to be loved again and, having declared that it is not like it used to be, now want everything to go back to how it was? Should we make fun of lovers in their attempts to make love last? Or should we try to face up to the experience of betrayal, with the offence caused by the person we love most? Should we not perhaps attempt to praise forgiveness in love?

The kiss is the image that, perhaps more than any other, encompasses the beauty and poetry of love. Every love is required to maintain the kiss, to make it last. When they kiss, lovers carve out their hiding holes, finding their peace from war. When they kiss, the noise of the world is silenced, its laws broken, time is stolen from its normal continuity. They fall together in their distinct, embraced tongues. The kiss joins the tongue that declares love with the body of the lover. And the extinction of the kiss and, most importantly, of the desire to kiss one’s beloved announces the demise of love. In this short book, Massimo Recalcati – one of Italy’s leading intellectuals and bestselling authors – offers seven brief lessons on the mystery and miracle of love, from the serendipity of the first encounter to its end or its continuation over time, as mysterious and miraculous as the first encounter itself.

In this book the bestselling author and psychoanalyst Massimo Recalcati offers a fundamental re-examination of what ‘being a mother’ means today, in a world where new social and sexual freedoms mean that motherhood is no longer the sole destiny of women. Questioning the belief that a mother’s love is natural and unconditional, he paints a more complex and troubling picture of the mother–child relationship, observing that mothers may even resent their children as a result of unresolved conflicts between different dimensions of love. The mother’s hands not only nurture but can also potentially harm. Recalcati argues that it is precisely in these competing demands that motherhood fulfils its function: only if the mother is ‘not-all-mother’ can a child experience the absence that enables it to access the symbolic and cultural world. Recalcati cuts through conventional wisdom to offer a fresh perspective on the changing nature of motherhood today. An international bestseller, this book will appeal to a wide general readership, as well as to students and scholars of gender studies, psychoanalysis and related disciplines.

Come avviene la creazione artistica? Qual è la sua genesi? Quali le sue condizioni? Attraverso il particolare itinerario artistico di Antoni Tàpies, Massimo Recalcati esplora la natura del gesto creativo, riflettendo sul rapporto tra biografia e opera. Ricostruendo il «paradigma-Tàpies» svela l’intensa dialettica che si sviluppa tra memoria e oblio, necessità e contingenza, ripetizione e creazione.

Con una nuova prefazione dell'autore e fotografie di Giancarlo Fabbi L’Occidente capitalista ha prodotto una nuova forma di schiavitù: l’uomo senza desideri, condannato a conseguire un godimento schiacciato sul consumo compulsivo e perennemente insoddisfatto. Era la tesi di L’uomo senza inconscio: nel nostro tempo il desiderio rischia l’estinzione. Ma quando diciamo “desiderio” che genere di esperienza evochiamo? Massimo Recalcati indaga qui un tema chiave della dottrina di Lacan: il desiderio e i suoi enigmi. Come in una galleria di ritratti vengono raffigurati i diversi volti del desiderio umano: il desiderio invidioso, il desiderio di riconoscimento, il desiderio di “niente”, il desiderio angosciante, il desiderio sessuale, il desiderio d’amore, il desiderio di morte, il desiderio dell’analista... Ne scaturisce una sintesi semplice e avvincente, che può essere considerata l’introduzione più efficace e più leggibile al pensiero di Lacan.